Letting go is hard. It can be painful. It can be challenging even when we know it’s good for us. Some things we need to let go of because it’s a toxin to our lives (i.e., alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, abusive relationships, etc.). Some times we are forced to let go of things because we move on in life – we get a new job, graduate from college, get married, have children. Here we may let go of former co-workers, friends, familiar landscapes. But we let go because we know it’s time, and we’re ready for the next stage in our life. Sometimes we’re blind to the idea of letting go, and when we finally realize we need to, it can cause great sadness. No one can avoid letting go, and it’s rarely easy.
I’ve lived in Florida for 5 years and before I moved I knew my life was about to undergo a profound transformation. Of course this was a given because I was moving hundreds of miles away from everything familiar – my friends, my house, my church, my entire life. I was scared, and I didn’t want to. It was the first time in my life, I let go of my own wants and completely surrendered everything to God. This was difficult, but I knew there was a reason God was moving my family to Florida. That reason didn’t fully come to life until this year when I discovered my true inner potential and was awaken with a Divine guiding hand to a bigger purpose in life to help victims of human trafficking. In this process, I have explored who I am and what life means to me. It’s been a spiritual journey where I have learned to grow and let go of many things.
What I’ve let go:
- Anger: Anger is a difficult emotion. It covers up what’s really happening inside. This one was a challenge for me and very painful. I uncovered rejection, abandonment, competition and disappointment. These emotions are far harder to deal with than anger. By understanding my own anger, I have learned to respond, not react. This has been much healthier for any relationship I’m involved in.
- Fear: We are all afraid of something. My biggest fear is being abducted. Do you know how hard it is to read about kidnappings of human trafficking victims? But my own fear has pushed me to take a positive action step to help awareness for this cause. I am also afraid of failure. I think we all are. But I’ve recently decided to take a huge risk, and I’m seriously hoping to open a business within the year. I discovered once I took the first step toward my dream that I wasn’t as afraid as I had thought, and I’m having a lot of fun watching things come together.
- Expectations of myself and others: We all do this. Unrealistic expectations tend to cause disappointment. We should all have standards, but keep in mind that these standards reflect the reality of the relationship, the situation, the feelings. And we must realize no one is perfect and expecting perfection from ourselves is impossible. So let’s give ourselves some slack and let go of the stress that comes with unattainable expectations.
Bryan Divisions, a musician, inspires and encourages to let go in his song entitled, Let Go. Please check out his song. It’s been a great reminder.
Sometimes we let go and never look back. Other times, we let go and shortly after run right back to that which we let go. It’s not always the letting go that we must understand, but instead the lesson to be learned and knowing that we’re walking toward something that is happening just for us at the right time. Find peace in the process, and it will take you a step closer to true joy.
What is something in your life you need to let go of?